Divorce is considered one of the most life altering experiences. But to make it a traumatizing process or a peaceful one is in your hands. Although it’s about going separate ways, it is still possible for you and your spouse to work out the divorce process smoothly and make it beneficial to both.
Once you have made a decision to file a divorce, you need to decide what kind of a divorce you are looking for. If you are looking for a high conflict, high cost divorce, your divorce attorney or divorce lawyer could easily engineer it with elements of retribution and anger. But this will soak up your money at a rapid clip and you have no guarantee of smooth future consequences.
But if you are looking for a simple, better, low stress collaborative divorce then you have to have an initial consultation with your divorce lawyer to discuss it in detail and plan out your strategy.
In a collaborative divorce, the needs of both the parties and the children are met without any fear of intense courtroom battles, in any phase of the divorce. In this process the parties along with each party’s divorce attorney agree that they will not take the case to the court except for the final stage of the divorce. Negotiation takes place in the presence of both the parties with their attorneys in all frames of this process.
The three main principles of collaborative divorce are:
- Agreement not to approach the court except for taking guidance from the judge and final conditions of the case.
- An open discussion and exchange of financial details by both the parties.
- A solution that fulfills the needs of both the parties and children.
The Civil Way
This method of divorce sounds simple and hassle free. While this is true, both the parties have to work with commitment towards a negotiation that will be beneficial to both. Unless there is effort from both the sides it’s impossible to have a peaceful collaborative divorce. Collaborative divorce also saves a lot of stress and time. All that is needed to make this one successful is a little co-operation and understanding.