Every since Beyoncé’s Lemonade dropped, discussions of marriage, infidelity, and reconciliation have been prominent in the media. While it isn’t clear whether Jay Z, in fact, cheated on Beyoncé, Lemonade, certainly alludes to a troubled marriage. The New Yorker called the film, “the product of a brutal tension: a woman who has been deified by the entire world and yet cannot secure the love of the person closest to her.”
Lemonade displays Beyoncé’s raw grief, and yet, the film seems to end with redemption and a celebration of family.
Beyoncé is not the only woman to have faced terrible betrayal in the public sphere. Hillary Clinton also wrote about her shock following the discovery of Bill Clinton’s infidelity and her uncertainty about whether her marriage would last.
The Washington Post recently discussed the ways in which women suffer the greatest disadvantage when it comes to marital fidelity. According to researchers, anywhere from 20% to 40% of married men have had extramarital affairs, while only 15% to 25% of women have had affairs. Women often suffer greater social stigma and penalties if their affairs come to light. Financial matters also need to be considered. The fact is that women often quit work to care for children and often aren’t paid as well as their male counterparts. Some women simply can’t afford to cheat.
Yet, for Beyoncé and Clinton, money doesn’t seem to be the issue. Why do these women stay? Can a marriage survive infidelity? If you learned your partner cheated, you may not know what you want to do next. You may wonder whether your marriage can be saved. Even if you’re not sure you want to move forward with divorce, it might be a good idea to speak to a divorce lawyer so that you can review your options.
Infidelity doesn’t always lead to the end of a marriage. As many as 50% of couples stay together after a partner cheats.
What is fascinating about Lemonade is that it asks a pivotal question about intimacy. Where should a woman turn when her best friend, her intimate partner, has hurt her? Clinton struggled with this. Beyoncé appears to be working it out through art.
At the end of the day, if you’re marriage is in trouble, only you can answer the tough question about whether to stay or go. Therapy, couples counseling, reading, and reflection can help.
No marriage is perfect and every couple goes through difficult times. However, if you do choose to move forward with divorce, it is important to prepare yourself personally and legally. The Law Offices of Abbott & Abbott, P.C. in Marietta offers qualified counsel to individuals going through divorce. We’ll take a look at your individual circumstance and help develop a roadmap going forward. Still, it’s important not to rush into a settlement. Individuals sometimes make mistakes they later regret, just to finalize their divorce sooner. They later learn that they could have reached a more beneficial settlement both for themselves and their children. A family law attorney can look at your case and determine the best way forward.