Queens, New York. People Magazine reports that Gwyneth Paltrow may regret using the term conscious uncoupling, but the popularity of the idea remains. The idea behind conscious uncoupling involves choosing to separate or divorce from your partner, but doing so in manner that re-envisions the family rather than destroying or fracturing it. Essentially, it’s an approach to divorce that seeks ways to minimize damage—to the separating partners and to the children. While the concept sounds wonderful in theory, in practice, it can be difficult to achieve. After all, what divorce is free of anger or resentment? And what divorce is free of tough questions about finances and children?
What is conscious uncoupling like for non-celebrities; what is conscious uncoupling like in Queens? According to one writer for NYMag, conscious uncoupling can be a complex process, and it doesn’t mean that there is no conflict involved. In any separation or divorce, partners may have resentments, anger, sadness, and other concerns. The goal is to address those emotions and process them openly so that they don’t get in the way of the divorce. When couples bring their anger and resentment to the bargaining table in divorce, they sometimes end up using assets, property, or even the children as means to express their negative feelings—with disastrous results. Instead, during the conscious uncoupling process, couples work to separate their lives at a pace that works for them and in a way that is psychologically beneficial. This may involve re-imagining dreams without a partner, and life without marriage.
The Law Office of Charles Zolot are Queens divorce lawyers, who see firsthand how difficult divorce can be. After all, with divorce you’re taking an emotional and highly personal split and turning it into a legal and financial process. The conflation of these two things can lead to heightened conflict. So what is a divorcing couple to do? First, it might help to slow down, see a counselor together or apart, and take your time to express and process your feelings—before talking about a parenting plan and who will get the house.
In fact, according to Vanity Fair, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin will sign their divorce papers soon, several years after they made their initial announcement to divorce. Conscious uncoupling doesn’t necessarily mean the divorce will be quick or easy. It just means that both partners have decided consciously to make an effort to be fair, civil, and to reinvasion their families together.
Divorce may require you and your former partner to answer many complex questions. Child custody, division of finances, and debts, and even the question of alimony may arise. If you’re looking for ways to resolve these concerns in a manner that works best for your family and children, visit http://www.zolotlaw.com/ today. Our Queens child custody attorneys can work with you and your former spouse to help you draft a parenting plan that is in the best interests of your children and your family.