JACKSON, Mississippi. Some people wait years after getting divorced before they jump into the dating scene. Others can’t wait to get started, and may start dating before their divorce is finalized. How soon is too soon and when should you start dating after divorce?
First, if you’re in the process of filing for divorce and your divorce is not yet finalized, it might be best to wait until your divorce is official before you hit the dating scene. Why? Any money you spend on a new date or new partner can make splitting assets and property an issue should your divorce go to court. If your former wife or husband believes you’ve spent money on a new girlfriend or boyfriend, this might come up when it comes time to divide bank accounts. So, if you are dating and haven’t finalized your divorce, it may be wise to avoid taking any expensive or fancy trips and avoid giving any lavish gifts to a new flame until your divorce is finalized. If you are dating and have not yet finalized your divorce, you may want to speak to a qualified divorce lawyer like the Law Office of Andrew Sorrentino, P.L.L.C., in Jackson, Mississippi. Our firm can help you take steps to protect your assets, your rights, and help you navigate the legal aspects of your divorce so that you can reach a finalized divorce settlement as soon as possible and move on in earnest.
If you have been divorced for some time and are thinking about jumping back into the dating scene, it is important to make sure you are truly ready. According to Woman’s Day, it can be hard to know whether you’re just experiencing butterflies or are actually not ready to get back into the dating scene. If the whole idea of dating sounds terrible, it may not be time to start, but if plenty of time has passed and you’ve been thinking about downloading a dating application, it might be time to give it a try.
According to Today, it is often wise to take some time to work on yourself and heal a little bit before jumping into another relationship. Do you know why your marriage ended and your role in it? Do you have a better idea of what you’re looking for in your next relationship? If you’re still not sure, you might want to spend a little more time working on yourself, first.
Before you start dating, you might also want to take some time thinking about the things that make you happy. Get involved in art classes, get outside, volunteer. At the end of a failed marriage and after a divorce, many people find that they have lost touch with the things they love doing because they had spent all their energy on the relationship. You don’t want to repeat old patterns, either. If you find yourself dating the same old abusive partner, you may want to take some time to explore the type of men or women you are attracted to so you can identify red flags sooner, before you get too invested.
Today also recommends that you not go into the dating world alone. Tell your trusted friends and family members what you’re up to. Go into dating with the spirit that you’ll eventually find love again, but you may need to go through some bad (and hopefully) funny dates before you find it. Having a good friend or family member to talk to if a date goes bad can be immensely helpful.
Finally, the best thing to do is to stay patient and not give up.
If you are considering getting divorced, consider speaking to a divorce attorney like the Law Office of Andrew Sorrentino, P.L.L.C. in Jackson, Mississippi. If you’re ready to move forward, our firm can help.