DAYTONA BEACH, Florida. If your marriage is in trouble, it can be difficult to know when to pull the plug. Divorce is a tough topic to broach in the best of circumstances, as it can be difficult for everyone involved, from the couple to their children. According to the American Psychological Organization, divorce can have an impact on children’s well-being. Yet, some of the most recent studies indicate that children are highly resilient when it comes to recovering from their parents’ divorce. In fact, the biggest predictor of some of the more negative outcomes is pre-divorce and post-divorce conflict. The research suggests that drawing out your marital conflicts for more months or years on the off-chance your marriage will be saved may not be the best course forward. In fact, children and individuals going through divorce fare better when they are able to put an end to the conflict through divorce and are able to resolve their divorce in a peaceful manner.
This is where divorce lawyers come in. They can help you and your former spouse resolve your differences, divide assets and debts, and resolve questions of child custody. Families that are able to resolve these issues outside of court generally see better outcomes, but sometimes litigation is required. Faster resolutions to divorce proceedings can reduce the time a former couple spends in conflict, thus resulting in a healthier overall divorce. Of course, no divorce is easy. That said, having a lawyer on your side helping you understand your rights can make the process go more smoothly.
In fact, many formerly married individuals find that their relationship with their ex improves after their marriage ends. In a QZ article, one man wrote about how the role of “ex” changes the way women view the men who were once their husbands. For instance, parents can go from fighting spouses to appreciative co-parents. The writer notes that a father who takes out the trash when he picks up the kids may be much more appreciated than a husband who does the same. Similarly, divorced co-parents are more likely to appreciate their partner for the good they do for the children rather than berate them for other issues of contention that arose during the marriage.
The good news is that 80% of children of divorce do just fine. Being good co-parents, it turns out, is much more important than trying to make a failed marriage work. With proper supports, couples now, more than ever, are able to divorce amicably. Finding a good divorce lawyer like the Behrens Law Firm (and possibly also finding a good counselor) can make your divorce the start of a new chapter in your life that can be viewed positively rather than negatively. More than ever, couples are finding amicable, as well as financially and emotionally healthy ways to part ways