NAPLES, Florida. According to Psychology Today, it is often healthiest when couples who have recently broken up take some time away from each other. The less contact, the better. However, in cases where one partner has abused the other, or poses a danger to the other, sometimes zero contact during and after a divorce is best. Yet, if you have children, keeping a zero contact order can be challenging. Co-parenting with zero contact can be difficult, but with some boundaries in place, it is possible for you to co-parent with as little contact as possible.
First of all, it is important to discuss your reasons for zero contact with your divorce lawyer. If you want zero contact because of verbal or physical abuse, your divorce lawyer may be able to seek a sole custody arrangement through the courts. While the courts tend to favor co-parenting arrangements that provide both parents contact with their children, there are cases where the courts find it in the best interests of the children for there to be no contact. Long & Alguadich, P.L.L.C. are family law attorneys in Naples, Florida who work closely with victims of domestic violence, physical abuse, and verbal abuse to help them get the best possible divorce settlement under the law.
If there was no abuse, but you still would prefer to maintain no contact with your ex to protect yourself mentally and emotionally, this is understandable. The most challenging aspects of co-parenting with a hostile or high-conflict ex involves making shared decisions for the children and exchanging the children for parenting time. Here is where creative solutions can make a big difference. For example, some divorcing couples grant each parent specific parenting decision-making rights. So, mom might make decisions about after school activities while dad might make decisions about religion. Or, perhaps, the parenting plan can be written as specifically as possible, with decisions outlined in the plan, and with provisions for the parents to meet with a lawyer or mediator should there be disagreements going forward. Exchanging the children can also be done creatively. For example, one parent can drop the children off at school and the other parent pick up the children from school so that the parents never have to meet. Or one parent can drop off the children at an activity and the other parent can pick up the children. As long as school officials or counselors are aware that a different parent will be picking up the children, this can be a safe, no-contact way to exchange your children with your ex for parenting time.
Other solutions include child custody apps that you can use on your cell phone. Florida Trend reported on an application that gives you a space to communicate with your ex via the app, a space for check-ins so you can keep track of where the children are, and joint calendars. While this isn’t a “no contact” solution, the application allows you to quarantine messages from your ex to the application, thus decreasing contact and allowing you to keep your personal life separate from your co-parenting life.
While the best case scenario for children is one where both parents are able to co-parent with low conflict, the family lawyers at Long & Alguadich, P.L.L.C. in Naples, Florida understand that this isn’t always possible. Our attorneys can take the time to understand your circumstances and help you devise a no contact or low contact parenting plan that will be in your children’s best interests.
 

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